If you’ve read through Part 4a and you’re looking for more information, this last section is for you! Although not everyone’s situation is the same, please know that it is so important to evaluate where you’re at in your own relationships and if you can apply any of the reading to you. If you find that it doesn’t apply, maybe you have a loved one who might benefit from the read. Never hesitate to share and spread powerful information which might help someone you care about or love.
Again, we are going to jump right in; here is the “hard part” when it comes to loved ones and those we care about. Saying, this is just not okay. Saying, I refuse to be treated this way. Making the decision to remove yourself from the relationship. Not to be taken lightly, though, it may be time to ‘walk away’ or leave when the other person just cannot see how they are hurting and harming you. Maybe they can even see it and just don’t have the tools to ‘fix’ it. Please always remember, if you are at choice, the other person is also always at choice too. They could find help to make significant changes in their own mental health and wellbeing or they themselves can work on respecting you, your boundaries and your emotional health. If they are at choice NOT to make those adjustments which you have clearly and concisely laid out and communicated to them, then now the ball must be in your court.
This is something that a lot of people do not want to face, nor want to hear. There can be endless justifications, reasons or excuses; sometimes we feel familial obligation supersedes all; or that we love them, so we have to be spoken to and treated whichever way is given to us; we are financially dependent on the person and therefore are not sure how to get out; or our spiritual affiliations govern our ties to the person and prevent us from removing ourselves. BUT, regardless of how tangible or severe these seem at the moment, there is almost always a resource or answer if you will allow yourself to tap into it and to see it. That being said, it is imperative to find as much support and as many of the resources available to you in order to transition to letting go of a toxic and harmful situation – your health and happiness depends on it!
It is most important for me to always re-iterate and say many times over, You Are NOT Alone! There are always support systems, groups and resources available in any and all areas of life; someone out there knows what you’re going through! I find it important to express this because a path alone is like walking in the darkness with no light, we cannot see the end or even other pathways around us. With just a hint of light, the possibilities are endless and the pathways and choices are illuminated. I would also like to point out and express that we are all HUMAN BEINGS and have made and will make mistakes. You may have cursed out a loved one, walked out on them, said hurtful things to someone in the grocery store while feeling impatient. It can happen to the best of us. Each day is a new opportunity to learn and grow. We are not defined by the mistakes we make, the people we have been, or what people ‘expect’ us to be. Simply put, we are the actions of today and tomorrow is an opportunity to be someone we aspire to be. Work on your positive thinking, work on expressing yourself clearly, work on allowing yourself and those around you some grace and most importantly, work on the love inside of you. If you feel that someone is constantly criticizing you or putting you down, try analyzing where it is coming from, try expressing yourself even if you’re typically the quiet one and know when it is time to walk away, regardless of how hard that might seem.
If ever you feel that you want my coaching service as a resource and support, know that you can contact me- I am just a call, text or email away! I hope you enjoyed this series of ‘How to deal with Consistent/Constant Criticism and Put Downs’ and I look forward to reading your feedback. As always, you can also check out the recorded reading on YouTube at www.youtube.com/@feathersjourney.